Teen Relationships
Do You Believe in Soulmates ?
Deciphering How Teens Define the Meaning
Deciphering How Teens Define the Meaning
TeenNewsNet Columnist
I always think that people come into your life for a reason. However, as teens can we truly understand what fate or having a soulmate is?
For instance, if you are in a really bad relationship let's say, but you are too afraid to break up, so you end up being with them for a long time.. is that person your soulmate? Or were you forced to be with them? I know sometimes things don't work out, but then some people say that if you really love someone...you would do anything to be with them.
So what happens then? You want to show that you really love them.. so you just stay with them...because that's what you're "suppose to do"?
I know I am always the type of person that says I am ugly and that no one will ever like me, but then again people HAVE liked me. I know a lot of people who feel the same way. In other words, they don't have much of a backbone, they get walked all over and they just deal with it because they become attached. I truly think though, there is ONE person out there that is your perfect match... Of course no one is ideal in every way, but when things are not right we should be realistic and end the relationship. Although you may need to be strong to do this, remember your happiness should be the most important. Also, forcing yourself to feel something is right that isn't may keep you from finding that special person.
I think that that is a lesson for everyone! You should never let ANYONE make you feel uncomfortable or unhappy. Love goes beyond feeling pressured or the length of time you deemed someone your "boyfriend or "girlfriend." Don't just be in a relationship to be in one or because you would be the only single one of your friends. I believe if you are patient then the right person will come for you. Again, don't get stuck with someone who isn't right for you. Be strong!
I asked other teens their viewpoint on whether or not they believe in having a soul-mate?
| Samantha: |
"I think there are people you are meant to be with, but it's up to you to find them. So, yes I think there is such a thing." |
| Ryan: | "Not really. Especially when you are younger you may date someone for a long time and you get really excited. You say that you are soul-mates and going to get married and stuff. I think we say that without really knowing what it means. So, no I really don't believe in it. People feel like they are supposed to love the person they are with. They think they have to say cute stuff. Sometimes saying those things trick your mind into believing it...even-though it isn't true." |
| Alyssa: |
"I think some people do, because if you did why do some people feel they are so in love, but then end up getting divorced." |
| Aidan: |
"I don't consider it a soul mate, I think it is more like if you are in the right place at the right time. Like you know when you go somewhere and you see one of your friends by total coincidence? Kind of like that..Did you ever realize how most of the time, married couples didn't go to the same school? Usually they met somewhere else,so maybe they ended up at that place at the same time. I guess that person would be considered your soul-mate, but maybe it is just someone who you are brainwashed to believe it is your soul-mate.. like you think you guys are so perfect together , but maybe in reality you're not. |
| Brianna: |
"I do believe things happen for a reason and people come and leave your life for a reason, but I am not sure about the whole soul-mate thing...I don't believe that someone has the other half of your heart. I think there is someone who is just right for you, but that person might also be right for a lot of other people." |
| Ashley: |
"I really don't think so because some people like to play other people. and they don't know what they have until it's gone. and some people tolerate too much and don't end it when they aren't happy. So no, but there are people out there who make you happy." |
